It’s four months later, and my ex-boyfriend is still posting those passive aggressive post-breakup statuses directed towards me. Part of me wants to respond to them (publicly to embarrass him) but I refuse to explain myself any more. And I don’t want to be on his level of immaturity and spitefulness.
Anyway, today’s status bothered me more than any of the other ones. “A girl will never leave you to be single,” he posts, quoting a girl who says “trust me [because] I’m a girl.”
I could give you a million reasons why I left you but the biggest reasons are because of who you are right now and how you’ve conducted yourself after we broke up. Because now I know what your true character is.
Look at yourself. What I did may not have been right, but you can’t keep blaming me. You refuse to let go, you refuse to forget, you refuse to forgive. I can’t be sorry for what you do to yourself.
I left you because I knew I could be better, and I knew I could do better.
can i ask advice about boys? my friend is going through a bad breakup, her ex broke up with her because he said he is too busy and wants to be selfish. he says that he really likes her and enjoys spending time with her but cant handle being in a relationship because of school and didnt want a label. is he being honest? she keeps blaming herself even though we tell her not to. can you please give me advice?
So obviously I don’t know the people you are talking about personally, so I can’t honestly say whether he might be telling the truth or not BUT - from a third person outsider point of view, it looks like he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship with her. If a guy - anyone, actually - really wants to be with someone, he will be with her regardless of outside factors. What makes me think he’s just using school as an excuse is that he says he doesn’t want a label. To me, that means he just wants to mess around and not have anything serious. By him saying “he really likes her and enjoys spending time with her but can’t handle being in a relationship” is a HUGE sign that says “you’re a great girl and all buuuuuut I’m not really interested in something serious or long-term. Like I said, if a guy wants to be with you, he’ll do everything he can to be with you, and he’ll want to call you his girlfriend or whatever. He’ll want everyone to know you’re with him and no one else. He’s just not that into her, I guess. Kinda harsh but that’s how I see it. There are people out there that do prioritize school, work, etc. over relationships but this guy doesn’t sound like one of them. You can be the judge of that, I guess.
As for your friend, I would tell her to move on. She is a beautiful, wonderful, amazing girl who deserves a guy who wants her just as much as she wants him, if not more. A guy who will appreciate her, take care of her, and eventually love her. That guy does exist and one day, she’ll find him. It’s not her fault, and it never will be her fault. Some relationships just never work out, and that’s that. Nothing you can do about it, yanno?
And sorry for getting back to you quite a few days later. Hope I helped! You’re a great friend for trying to help her!
I wish that people would stop giving me reasons not to trust them. It would be so, so much easier if people just laid out all their intentions on the table so I could just tell them upfront if I was okay with them. Or maybe if I could just read minds or tell if people were lying - that would be nice. I’m just tired of wasting my time with people who aren’t honest with me. They spend all day telling me one thing, but they mean the complete opposite. What is the point of that?
I just want to find someone who is honest with me all the time, like I am with them. I’m not afraid to say what is on my mind or what I believe - why is everyone else?